Centering Sacred Performance: The Erotic

As we answer a call to more self intimacy, there is an intercom voice that says "Be less performative!!", especially around the male gaze.

And rightfully so.

Men have infiltrated a sacred space, such as sexuality along with beauty, and have made it a commodity that caters to their enjoyment, and economically feasts off of self deprecating esteem.

I remember when I was doing Only Fans and a someone asked me (regarding an idea I had), "What man is going to like that?"

as if I really give a f*ck.

The work that I do is ALWAYS about me.

The question I ask myself is, "what do I want to see? What do I want to feel?".

And it's definitely a way of being. I leaned into Black Feminist thought naturally as a little girl.

So I knew deep down how to center my desire energetically, at the very least.

Here, I want to turn on the light to the performance of sexuality as conjure, to counteract the concern of male-centered performance.

I'm talking about erotic performance that ignites emotional arousal. Erotic performance that wakens memories and transcends time and space.

I have cried quite a few times at the sight of my friend shaking her ass. Because shaking my ass was something I used to be so afraid to do. Like many Black girls, I was told not to do that, very aggressively. It took me a decade to move on from that.

I have cried seeing a burlesque performer make exquisite love to the floor. Just her body and the floor as her lover. In a world where getting dirt on your feet is unclean and uncivilized, this kind of work is medicine.

I have felt the thick waters of a dancers ancestral homeland on stage with her. The ability to stun is inside of her, not from some performative dogma. Me and water go together real bad. A performer coming from a place of self centre carries mysteries with them. All kinds of different things. I didn't have to go to the water. Seeing a thick bad bitch strip authentically in her sovereign desire was plenty. So you see, erotic performance can be church.

It is ceremonial.

But how does one get there?

I'm birthing a 3 month intensive workshop around sensuality and I want to dig a little deeper.

Starting (the 1st month l) with what I consider to be a major foundation of holistic sensuality:

Great Mother imagery in her many different faces, silhouettes, tones, and in her gender expansiveness. It's going to be very anthropology center with an entire month of studying the ancient Ancestral Mothers.

I hope you can join me in this.

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